After shiny and sweet bubble love phase we all have to come back to earth at some point. Trying to solve issues brought up by unhealed wounds, belief systems and programming, most often than not, Twin Flames have no other choice but to part their ways. At the beginning, separation leaves us confused, lost and hopeless. However the ultimate lesson and core purpose of this phase is to bring the attention to the most important person in your own universe – yourself.
For many people, separation stage is the first moment in their life when they finally start noticing themselves and realize how much they abandoned their own needs for the sake of other people, career or material possessions. This self-abandonment is primarily caused by lack of self-responsibility. In general, we avoid taking responsibility for our own happiness and tend to project our needs of overall mental end emotional well-being condition onto other people, especially our partner.
From my experience, we are not aware of our codependent tendencies, often leaving the responsibility for our happiness in our partner’s hand. In addition, today’s society promotes the idea of finding someone who will make you feel “whole” and fulfilled in your life, implying that true joy within relationship is dependent on another person. This massive confusion creates unnecessary tension in ourselves, which can easily creep into our other relationships. We are programmed to look for “the one” who will make us complete which is the fast track to codependent relationships, in which is a fast track to unhealthy pattern of codependent relationship, in which one partner is emotionally, mentally or spiritually reliant on another.
This is a space where Twin Flame connection shines bright like a diamond. Shortly after meeting our Twin Flame counterpart, we are thrown into higher state of consciousness where we experience the state of pure love. This is a connection as any other. There is no place for shame, guilt, pain or fear and we feel like the person is able to give us eternal peace and happiness.
The problem begins, when the bubble love ends and we are brought back to earth. At some point, we are not able to maintain this magical state anymore and all internal conflicts and wounds start to come out. This usually leads to separation which leaves one person in confusion, pain and despair after being abandoned and another in fear, anger and/or hopelessness when they see they have to leave the connection. The most beautiful part of the separation process begins some time after. Having no other choice, one begins their inner work and self-insight which leads to realization that true joy and and fulfillment comes from the place that is always with us and can be found through the act of self-love.
Throughout the process of self-healing, we gradually come out of our shell and begin to see the world as it is, not through the lenses fogged by previous projections and fears. We stop seeing ourselves as a victim of the entire situation and start working ourselves. This usually begins by taking a better care of ourselves, discovering new passions, developing new, healthy relationships or improving existing ones and leads to overall improvement of our life.
Our well-being and internal balance is being reflected in other connections, since we do not engage in drama, fights or blame games anymore, putting our comfort and peace as a priority.
In parallel to our self-development, we begin to develop a closer relationship with the universe and embrace our intuition which was guiding us back to our true self up to this point. We become more aware of divine energies that have orchestrated the entire experience for our own personal growth and were accompanying us along the whole journey. The entire spiritual path becomes easier as we realize that everything that happens in our lives meant to make us the best version of ourselves.
While the separation phase can initially seen as a punishment, one is able to realize the true value of this stage once they shift the focus back to themselves. By healing our wounds and traumas and overcoming all the fears that were holding us back all our lives, we embrace their own destiny and bring our internal world to balance.
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