Twin Flame connection is a perfect mirror of our own insecurities, fears and limiting belief systems preventing us from becoming our best selves. At some point along the Twin Flame journey, we realize that its true purpose is to give us a chance to become the best version of ourselves by improving our personality by tackling our own shadow and start living according to our soul’s purpose. The problem is, no one ever explained to us how to navigate the process of internal healing.
Here is good news: your Twin Flame connection shows you exactly what to work on and give you all the information you need when to begin self-healing process. Especially during separation phase, when we are given time for ourselves, we should use this unique opportunity to go inwards and get us back on track with our journey. We can learn a lot about our true purpose by looking closely into personality of our Twin Flame counterpart, issues which lead to arguments and/or separation, as well as plans when you two started creating “vision of your perfect life”.
Encountering your Twin Flame is like meeting your soul. Before awakening we are not very good in listening of our Higher Self, so we need to receive all the information through in physical plain – through situations and people. Since your Twin Flame counterpart is a perfect energetic match of your true essence, they are in fact personification of your own soul’s potential and dreams. Careful (and objective) analysis of the connection can help you to understand your true purpose and your soul’s desires. To my understanding, there are three kinds of information reflected the connection which can be used as a guidelines in your path of self-healing:
- Issues which led to separation
- Personality of your Twin Flame counterpart
- Common dreams and visions for the future
Let me describe every part in more details.
1. Issues that led to separation
Each Twin Flame connection is heavily influenced by your personal limitations, fears and unhealed traumas which start surfacing after the bubble love phase, and often lead to separation. During separation we are supposed to mature spiritually and personally, develop self-love and to prepare us (ultimately) to build a healthy connection with another person free of limiting belief systems, hidden truths and based on mutual understanding and respect. Most of our unhealthy behaviors are mirrored by Twin Flame connection and we should take a close look to identify patterns, psychological games and impulses which started appearing once the honey moon period ended. Through inner work and objective self-insight, we are able to recognize unhealthy behaviors which result from our subconscious programming regarding relationships with other people which we inherited from our entire bloodline through generations. Example issues we may start noticing in ourselves include: codependency issues (common in “narcissist-empath” type of connections), self-sabotage within the connection because of low self-esteem or emotional unavailability of one or both counterparts. The only way to bring balance and peace into your future relationships is therefore to recognize heal unhealthy patterns developed throughout our lives. Twin Flame connection is a unique opportunity to self-analyze yourself and start the healing process to bring your personality to the highest level.
2. Personality of your Twin Flame counterpart
Twin Flames are very often our polar opposites. Upon meeting we are immediately drawn towards the person for the specific reason. Most likely, you are able to very quickly pinpoint the main characteristics of your counterpart which caught your attention when you first met. Try to objectively analyze your connection and define the traits your Twin Flame impressed you with. In case of Twin Flame attraction, intense magnetic pull is caused but the imbalance of the energies between souls. In other words, we are attracted to what we are lacking in ourselves.
Once you identify those traits in your Twin Flame counterpart, you can start working on developing them in yourself to become the person you always wanted to become.
NOTE: be mindful, that until we heal our distorted belief systems, we tend to be attracted to both to healthy and unhealthy, sometimes even toxic personality traits and behaviors (such as jealousy, possessiveness, emotional unavailability). Make sure you analyze your connection from the place of mental and emotional objectivity.
3. Common dreams and visions for the future
In some connections bubble love phase lasts a little longer (even few months) and counterparts have chance to share and realize common dreams and visions for the future. you may have started planning a trip together, move to specific country or learn a new skill together. During bubble love phase we are in operating in a perfect vibrational alignment with our true essence. I like to think about this phase as if I was speaking to my Higher Self back then. Any information exchanged, any creative endeavor, and any vision regarding the future was a clear expression of your Soul. Try to remember common goals and plans you shared with your counterpart. Treat the conversations with your Twin Flame as the ultimate bucket list of your Soul.
NOTE: For those who may think that they cannot achieve them or should wait for their counterpart to go back to them: Believe me, you do not have to wait for anyone to start living your best life and fulfilling your dreams. Making gradual progress and achieving your goals by yourself not only will bring you incredible amount of satisfaction and internal power, but will also lead you closer to your true Soul’s path.
To make it even more clear, here are the main things you should and should not do during separation phase:
Things NOT TO DO during separation phase:
- wish for your Twin to come back
- help your Twin and send their energy
- be sad and wait with fulfilling your dreams after you get back together
Things TO DO during separation phase:
- self-reflect
- appreciate freedom
- strengthen connection with your Higher Self
- love yourself
As you can see, separation phase should not be seen as a punishment. Initial stages of a Twin Flame connection can be used as guidelines to our path of self-healing. Everything changes once you stop seeing separation phase as the miserable period during which you are supposed to sit and hope for your counterpart to come back and make you happy again. You should not put your life on the back burner – instead you should live your life to the fullest and take a good care of yourself, rediscovering your core essence. Once you start doing that, your life will begin to shift, you will start reconnecting with your Divine essence and you will start your most amazing, true spiritual journey.
P.S. If you want to learn more, I answered this question on our youtube channel.
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